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“Now and then it’s good to pause our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.”
Humanity seems to be on an eternal search for happiness. Everyone wants to be happy and we all deserve it. As soon as we are the happiest person on the planet, everything feels good. It doesn’t really matter if we have the latest designer bag or a brand new car.
But as we know, happiness is a journey and not a destination. The person who is focusing on being happy right now, in the present moment will probably be more successful in his/her search for happiness than the person who is doing everything it takes to be happy in the near future.
Happiness is different for every single one of us, yet nobody can experience a full life of total happiness. Such thing doesn’t exist. Life will always have ups and downs and that’s why we love it. It would be so boring otherwise.
However, it’s for sure that some people are happier than others and studies have shown that we can actually control our happiness levels.
Only 10% of our happiness levels are accounted for by extrinsic factors and money. And while 50% are determined by our genes, the remaining 40% are determined by things we can control such as our activities, our relationships, jobs, sports, hobbies, etc.
After having researching the subject and working on my own happiness for a bit more than a year now, I would like to share what has work with you.
Here are a few simple things that I am practicing in my own life and in my holistic recovery & health coaching practice, which can improve your happiness levels:
Being grateful for what we have instead of focusing on what we want, is so important! It brings you back in the present moment and makes you see how life is just amazing.
However, I know that being grateful doesn’t always come naturally if you don’t practice regularly. Some people recommend to write at least 3 things you are grateful for in your journal every day but what I found is that having a gratitude token is much more efficient.
For example, I am using a ring that I always have on me. This can be your wedding ring for example. Each time that I see it, I stop, touch it and express gratitude for what I have in my life. The more you do it, the best it is and soon, it will become automatic.
Practice random acts of kindness
We all come form a place of love and kindness. You will see that practicing random acts of kindness can change your day.
Give a compliment to one colleague, smile to people in the street, surprise your partner or your family, send postcards, thank people for being in your life, give gifts, etc. All these little things can actually have a great impact on how you feel.
Self-love and me time
Making room for ‘me-time’ and self-love is absolutely essential. You can’t give love or help others if you don’t start with yourself.
If you want to enjoy others, you first have to enjoy yourself. If you want to love others, your first have to love yourself. This is only when your will love yourself fully that you will be able to give. This doesn’t work the other way around!
So start today. What can you do to take care of yourself today?
When you find yourself dealing with negative thoughts and feelings, acknowledge them and recognize that it’s all right to feel this way. Then take a few deep breaths and try to get back to the positive. If you manage to shift your focus to all the positive things you’ve got in your life, you win
Focus on the present
Focusing on the present moment and what you’ve got right here, right now can be huge to help you get back to positivity and gratitude. Because most of the time we worry about the past or the future, getting back to the present moment bring you back in a state of enjoyment and happiness. Ask yourself simple questions like ‘how does it feel to breathe’, ‘how does it feel to see what I see’, ‘How does it feel to be with the people I am with?’…